Wednesday, May 9

Bonjournio pal-ios!

I am in a vair vair good mood today because.... it's been a good day! First of all I woke up and the birds were all a-twitter and the sun was all a-shiny and I thought 'What a perfect day to wear my new dress!!! It's black a swishy and clingy in all the right places and it has this cute little tie belt.. well anyway, my school is the basic Hollister/AE/Abercrombie and Fitch infested place, where most people( girl-people) just wear slutty short denim skirts and some low cut tank top from any of the aformentioned stores; so today I thought I'd be brave and wear my dress and go against the flow. It was all good, I felt amazing and my self esteem was all intact when suddenly this one girl in
my first class said 'Why are you wearing a dress?' in this really snobby-ish voice and with just that itsy bitsy unimportant question my confidence was suddenly smashed into little pieces.

I don't understand why I'm so fragile! I don't understand why it's so hard to be different and I don't understand how some girls can be that bitchy and not even realize it.

Anyways, I was over the urge to go change into my gym clothes by next block, and by third block I got over my insecureness. Grrrrrrrr I wish I was one of those people who can wear anything they want and be just fine with it. But I'm not. At least, not yet; maybe some day I will be.

ANYWAYS, I know that was very very boring but I just needed to unload. In other.. er... stuff, I've been getting these wierd emails from people from Elle and Life and Style "just telling me about their new issues and the new features." Hmmm... my eyebrow is starting to raise... they go on to say, "If I do choose to post about this exciting new feature could I please paste a link to the magazine website and the cover picture?" Ok, my eyebrow just hit my hairline. I dunno whether these are total scams or whether Elle and Life and Style are just looking for free advertising! If they are, and if they're reading this I just wanna let you know, I'm totally into advertising for cool stuff if you know.. there's money involved.... hehe. I mean honestly though, they seem to be hoping if they tell me about their 'cool new issue' that I'll just up and decide to post about it.
What do you guys think? Total scam of shameless attempt at free advertising? Or perhaps something else....??
P.S. Oh and that lurvely picture is of the inside of my school

27 Comments:

mary said...

if i had a cute dress to wear, i would be overjoyed about it! it seems like every single girl in my school has busted out the skirts and dresses this week. i feel kind of out of place in my trusty, dark blue skinny jeans.

Fashionistakay said...

I've been thru the same thing. It happened like twice this year, the first time it affected me because I no longer where that "item" of clothing anymore. The second time i got a comment I ignored it. So I guess its something you grow from? I don't know. All I can say is that you can be confident its a choice so to speak, but if you let someone's comment bring that down, you're choosing that person to bring you down. I THINK you should get props for wearing that dress. Not because you took a risk but because you KNOW it looked good. People have their opinions but they're going have to respect that you have your own and that you don't have to be like everyone else. I don't say this because I'm an expert I say it because I'm also learning and this has helped me overcome situations like that.
p.s. sorry for the super long lecture! By the way you should sooo look into linking ELLE!

Emma said...

girl I totally hear you. I go out of the house all "La di da, I am going to be free and lovely and empowered in my sundress and if anybody looks at me twice they can just EAT THEIR HEARTS OUT" and other nauseating I-am-woman things like that.
And then somebody nastily inquires, as you say, as to why I'm wearing a dress to work (I have a school uniform or I would wear a dress there too, or a skirt or something fun. Not every day, obviously, I'm not all that in love with my legs to be honest, but I wouldn't always stay away from skirts) or something like that and I just crumple like a handkerchief and overdose on lipstick and food to compensate.
Weird pattern, eh.

dianabobar said...

"People have their opinions but they're going have to respect that you have your own and that you don't have to be like everyone else."

fashionistakay is soooo right!
things like these happen to me all the time because in Romanian girls tend to dress either boring or vulgar (which is accepted by the people around me), but when you dress a little fashion forward, then oh everybody stares at you and comment and screams after you.
It happens to me ALL the time, I understand what you mean. I always try to ignore and tell myself that if I'd be somewhere else like in a more fashion forward city, it would be different and people wouldn't scream stupid names after me, on the street!!
It's ok for you to write about it, get it out of you system to gain your confidence back!
I wrote about it too, like when I was wearing a Mickey Mouse huge shirt as a dress. You can fin my post here, in interested in people's reaction:

http://dianabobar.wordpress.com/2007/05/04/my-la-style-outfit/

Keep your head up and wear whatever you want!!! I know I try...
kisses,
di

ambika said...

She was probably just insecure because you pulled off something she couldn't. I'm glad that, after a minute, you recovered. It's always disconcerting when people are rude but not letting it get to you is the key thing.

Frapp said...

Looks like an awesome school! Anyway, you don't need to let yourself get downed like that. I know girls (and boys) like that, you just have to ignore them. They may not think you look good, but that's because their mind is systematically programmed to only like denim skirts and Abercrombie & Fitch, so when they see anything different, their brains go into overdrive. Their idiots, I'm sure you looked fabulous. Though it does make me thankful sometimes that the UK has a uniform system...

molly said...

if my school looked like that, id wear a dress everyday! thats incredible!

that bitchy girl is prolly jealous that you have the legs to wear a dress...i bet she has cellulite.

i dont know...you should email them back and mention free gifts? or at the very least, a free subscription!
yes thats it. for a free subscription, youll advertise for them.
if its actually them, its not hard for them to give you a free subcription

franki durbin said...

Let's talk about the fashion/confidence issue first: be bold, be yourself, and over time you'll grow into the confidence.Trust me. Fake it till you feel it, baby! A good sense of humour is also helpful. If you can come back with a witty retort that makes her realize you are wearing the dress because it's fabulous you are fabulous and life couldn't be better - that's the ticket.

The magazines: they are learning to use bloggers to push their goods. They are emailing you because they see you as an influential: someone with a solid audience and influence. If they paid you and you wrote about them you'd lose your audience because you would no longer be authentic. You'd be a paid shill. So write about items if you're genuinely impressed and WANT to write about the items. Never lose your authenticity.

However ....if they (or anyone) wanted to advertise on your site that's another matter entirely. You get the best of both worlds: an income stream and freedom of speech! :)

jayne said...

god your school is gorgeous!

but on to the real subject of this post:
if you've got it flaunt it!

no, not in the slutty way like most of the girls at your school deem is appropriate, but in the " hello! sienna couldn't even pull this off, but i can!" way. i mean you bought it, you are supposed to wear it. so make it worth your money. and like ambika said, that girl was probably jealous she didn't own that great dress, and that she probably couldn't wear it either. good for you for not changing to fugly gym shorts though! that takes courage, if you're not the fashion brave type naturally. hopefully it told little miss bitchy, that you didn't care (even if you did).

i hope you got some compliments though too, that is always nice. because as much as people like to say that they don't care about others opinions, they do. i mean everyone likes compliments! so they obviously hear the insults too.

hopefully you will inspire others to be a bit more daring instead of trend whores.

and btw, i am speaking from experience. i've had a few key peices, that i absolutely loved, knowing well that they were a bit risky, but i still took the plunge on (ie j crew super preppy shorts, a luella for target bright redish orange blazer, a colorful tara jarmon for target floral coat...), and i got criticism, but mostly positive comments, which reaffirmed to me that it was a good choice to wear them. so even though it was tough initially, i now just go for it! hopefully, after today you'll be much more confident, because you've already done it once. it got easier for me, hopefully it will for you too

-ciao bella- said...

same problem- about 99% of the girls at my school consider their tanktops and short shorts dressing up (??) but i wear dresses all the time to school! don't worry about what that bitchy girl said because what you wear is really all about doing your own thing and not being a total conformist... wow that sounded really lecture-ish but you get my point- and totally wear the cute dress again!!

hellocello said...

omg youre school is amazing.

ok and to the snotty girl-get a life! jeez i hate it when people have such low self-esteems that they have to bitch at other people who are being themselves.

my advice to you: u like the dress, u look good in the dress, flaunt the dress like the runway! if this dress makes you feel like a movie star then who cares what people think. people on the red carpet have gotten "worst dressed" an then ended up on the "best dressed" column a week after! just work it, girl!

Model Citzen said...

hey i totally related to this story... negative comments like that usually come from insecure people proecting their insecurities. i agree with the previous comment. it's flattering that elle is contacting you, but only blog about it if it's actually worth blogging about. don't just do it "just because it's elle".

dianabobar said...

Check out the last "Animal Print" photo shoot I did myself, posted on my blog, So Fash'on. Feedback is really appreciated.
That's where I learn from!!
Thanks and kisses,
Diana

-S said...

nothing feels better than wearing a dress. besides, well, a new dress.

holly said...

i hate getting bithy looks, although it doesn't happen to me anymore because I'm not in school anymore, but I know exactly how you feel!

p.s. do you remember me? it's been a while since I've posted

Tru said...

most liekly free adevertising...shurgs...who cares if that girl dosen't liek your dress I'm surteyou looekd fab and she was just jealous she has completly unorginal style as in none

Touche19 said...

that girl sounds like the bigest biatch on planet earth!!!
you're soooooo, SO much better than she will ever be!
Wear your dress with pride and flip her the bird next time :]


despite the "snobby" people you say go to your school (ick A&F explosion), the architecture looks AMAZING!!!
double-edged sword?

the lipstick lady said...

uuurgh I always get that, it's like, just let me be original!!! it's all out of jealousy though, it's true. They just know they'd never have the courage to do something like that and pull it off :)

alluretone said...

your school looks pretty sweet. as for the snotty girl- i just want to punch her in the face because i hate people like that. :)

Bella said...

Thats your school?! Its so awesome, and believe me if i have to go to school and see another person wearing black leggings under an Abrecombie and Fitch denim mini i may shoot myself, your dress probably rocked! :)

maya said...

your dress sounds lovely, will you post a picture sometime?
i love wearing dresses to school, it makes me feel like im going against the crowd, although to tell you the truth everyone in my school is very laid back about what everyone else wears. i could turn up in a bibkini and no one would bat an eyelid.

Geisha said...

Gosh, your school is sooo cool. The girl-not so much. But don't mind her- you probably looked way more original in your dress. Anyways, that's happened to me a lot of times before...the only thing is that I just can't stay quiet and I'll let my inner Shaniqua come out. Then they'll just get madder until I notice they aren't worth the fight and I will just leave or give them "the elbow, because they aren't worth the extension" Okay, just kidding about the last part- I just had to add it. LOL

Dilemma said...

Ahaha, I've been getting those same emails! I acutally did a post about one so...if it is a scam, I guess I fell for it?

Dilemma said...

Ok, I accidentally hit 'publish comment' before I was finished so, anyway...
Girls will be girls. She was probably jealous[honestly I hate when people pull the jealousy card, but I think here it applies] and a little threatened at the fact that you were taking a risk!

A said...

I REALLY love that juicy couture dress... I wish that I had some money right about now

A said...

oh and I also am getting emails from Elle ... which is kinda funny b/c I haven't updated in like a billion years

rollergirl said...

Oh please! Who is this girl with the bitchy commments? Do you make negative comments like that to people? No! So why even listen to her? She's clearly a freak. As everyone else said, groove to your own tune and do your thing baby!